*toedirt* Even before I had to pack up everything and move across the country, I already knew I had enough Stuff. (More than enough: I gave away a hell of a lot of it when I moved. The coolest part of that was that I was mostly able to find people who genuinely needed it.)
I still have more than I need.
So my gift list is basically:
1. my partner 2. the member of my partner's family I drew in the gift exchange 3. anyone for whom I happen to run into an obviously perfect gift 4. my sister -- with the caveat that she also doesn't need more Stuff, so it has to be something with a very high love-to-bulk ratio
That's really it. It's easy to shop for Melissa, because I know what she loves and cares about.
But it's not all shiny and enlightened. Too much of my disinclination for gift exchanges is rooted on receiving an appalling percentage of gifts over the years that had no message other than "I don't know or especially care who you are, but I'm obliged to give you something, so here it is." I'd rather not have more of those. It's especially rough coming from family members.
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In this materialistic society, that's a rare blessing.
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I still have more than I need.
So my gift list is basically:
1. my partner
2. the member of my partner's family I drew in the gift exchange
3. anyone for whom I happen to run into an obviously perfect gift
4. my sister -- with the caveat that she also doesn't need more Stuff, so it has to be something with a very high love-to-bulk ratio
That's really it. It's easy to shop for Melissa, because I know what she loves and cares about.
But it's not all shiny and enlightened. Too much of my disinclination for gift exchanges is rooted on receiving an appalling percentage of gifts over the years that had no message other than "I don't know or especially care who you are, but I'm obliged to give you something, so here it is." I'd rather not have more of those. It's especially rough coming from family members.